I’m a 31-year-old male beyond ready to settle down. However, I have this dislike for gay men because I feel that our gay society is focused on sex, drugs, and the bar scene. The guys I meet are basically looking for one-nighters, which I’m not. I’ve experienced the bar scene, the Internet is just as bad as a bar, and I’ve tried personal ads only to find they are useless. How can I find someone who is interested in dating, a relationship, or courting without the search for quickies, drugs or going to the bar?
I think you’re putting too much pressure on yourself regarding finding a mate. My advice is to focus on yourself rather than using up your energy trying to do things that you really don’t want to do. If you’re meant to find someone he’ll eventually turn up. No use trying to stress yourself over it. Concentrate on things, which would improve your self. Make yourself interesting. Share what you can in your community and be a good friend. If Mr. Right does come along you’ll be ready for him.
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salut m. 31 ans. i dont believe in a mr right. nor on fate and eventually finding someone. this is EXACTLY where the weight is coming from. "sex drugs and the bar scene" are not unique to gay communities. in fact, finding a partner is difficult wether youre straight or gay. the best place to find one is amongst friends. true friends would help you look for a good match by introducing you to their "other" friends. there is a built in filtering system for bad apples because guys coming in are bound to come highly recommended .. bonne chance!
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